Recently, during a routine visit to my personal jewelry designer, I was attracted to a pendent with a vibrant blue stone. It turns out that kyanite is great for dissolving dysfunctional thought patterns and unhealthy connections. As an ardent supporter of networking and a woman dedicated to creating connections it took a second, but I thought, yes, sometimes it is best to burn bridges. Think Olympia Snow as she stepped down from the U.S. Senate, Carol Barz as she left Yahoo or Rosie O’Donnell resigning from “The View”. Want a few details? Read the Bloomberg article that tells all here.
“My land is bare of chattering folk; the clouds are low along the ridges, and sweet’s the air with curly smoke from all my burning bridges.” —Dorothy Parker
Deciding to end a personal or social relationship is difficult, but I am here to tell you, some bridges are meant to be torched. Any path that leads to detrimental or destructive places and/or people needs to go. As an article in Forbes points out, “For the most part, the advice “Never burn bridges!” is good advice, but there are exceptions to every rule. Some bridges desperately need to be burned. Sometimes for your own sake, you need to take a stand. Burning a bridge involves taking a risk.”
It takes guts and it takes tact, click here to read about how best to burn bridges.
Paradoxically JBH&A has entered the season of assisting our clients with cordial bridge building by way of reunions and holiday parties. We excel at finding venues, developing logistics, creating atmosphere and accomplishing all facets of large and small events. I encourage you to participate in any occasion that keeps you connected.
As Psychology Today states, “Generally, reunions can be highly valuable to our well-being. For those who want to learn more about themselves and make stronger connections with others, reunions can be a powerful vehicle for accomplishing this.”
At school reunions and holiday gatherings you can get to business forging relationships that will shape the experiences that you aspire to. We can feel good about building bridges that create healthy connections and confident as we watching the curly smoke from those bridges we burn. If wearing kyanite helps, great, but I just found out that diamonds encourage fearlessness, invincibility and fortitude.
For more information about the witty and wise-cracking Dorothy Parker click here. She co-wrote A Star is Born and besides living in New York City and Los Angeles she lived just up the road from me in Pipersville Pennsylvania.
Have a Magical Day,
CEO, Jane Barr Horstman & Associates